What is the one piece of advice you wished someone would have given you before you had children?
Special Thanks to Deidre, Nina & Anjanette
Here are their answers:
D. Hopkins from everydayatthehopkinshouse.blogspot.com/ writes: To be quite honest, I wish someone would’ve told me to loosen up a little and have fun. As a young adult, I was very focused on acquiring college degree and volunteering in the community. These are both very good things to build a resume and personal character, but I was also newly married at age 21. I wish I would have made more time to travel with my new beau; to goon spontaneous adventures and have fun! We were so committed to everyone else in our life and I had no idea how “committed” you actually become after children enter the scene. This is where the real responsibility begins. No doubt, the activities I did prior to having kids built the character that is needed for the struggles of parenting, I just wish I would have made more time for adventure and fun in my new marriage.
Another piece of advice I wish I would have been given is in regards to my physical health. All of the antibodies, friendly bacteria and immune support is passed from mother to baby and I wish I would have understood this concept and took my health more seriously during the fetal development of my children. You only get one chance to build that little body in utero, and we build healthy bodies by eating a nutritious diet while pregnant.
Nina from www.sleepingshouldbeeasy.com writes: There are quite a few I’ve had to learn “on the job” but the one that stands out to me is: don’t rock your baby to sleep. Ironically I was actually given this advice before I had my baby, and my immediate reaction was, “How cruel!” And for some moms and babies rocking absolutely works; the mom enjoys the time spent rocking and the baby probably does too. For me, no. And for my baby’s particular temperament, it didn’t work out too well. He became too dependent on rocking and needed it to fall asleep. I was also miserable; I would rock him for ten minutes and gently put him down only to find him wide awake again because he’s not being rocked. Or, he would wake up several times in the night and would cry because he didn’t know how to fall back asleep.
What I really should have done from the get go was to give him the opportunity to fall asleep on his own. I never knew what this meant; I thought that I would put him down drowsy and he would magically fall asleep in five seconds. So when I would put him down and he still wasn’t asleep, I’d freak out, thinking, “He’s not asleep yet!!” and scoop him up to rock again. I really should have given him longer than that to get comfortable, practice some self-soothing kills, and give him the chance to fall asleep on his own.
And there were a few times when he would, so I knew it was possible. But I was never consistent with it and really ought to have realized that I don’t have to do everything for him and that it’s actually quite all right to give him a chance too.
Anjanette from www.raisingthebarrs.com writes: I wish I would have been told to research maternity insurance before pregnancy, maybe even before marriage! We were unprepared to discover that our insurance had a 2 year waiting period. We were already off of birth control and hoping to begin a family soon when we found that out. We would have been spared the difficult decision to wait or find an alternative if we’d done the research right away. In the end, we opted to wait until we could pay out-of-pocket, but not two years. Unfortunately, the bills far exceeded our savings in the end because of treatments I needed but couldn’t have predicted. It was a stressful time to say the least. Related Articles How Does Your Coverage Measure Up? (everydayhealth.com)
And for me, I wish someone would have told me that I would be singing the theme to “Little Einsteins” in order to get my daughter to sleep. No really, I did what Nina from Sleeping Should Be Easy did, hubby and I rocked her to sleep for naps and before bedtime. Now, it takes about an hour of us reading to her before she falls asleep. Also, I wish someone would have told me that sometimes o.k. is good enough. Oh yeah, someone did, Thanks MOM! Related articles 6 Little Secrets of a Sleeping Baby (scienceofmom.com)
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